Erros durante a conexão ao MySql Server!!!!

Possuo um sistema em VB6 que utiliza o MySql 5 rodando em um servidor LINUX CONECTIVA 10 com 600 kbps de conexão! E 3 empresas utilizando o meu sistema através de acesso a minha base no servidor pela internet!!!

Duas delas utilizam conexão Brasil TELECOM de 250 kbps e outra com o Speedy de 250 kps!

Porém eu tenho obtido muitos problemas! Utilizo ADO 2.8 para conexão a minha base de dados!!!!

Erros: Lost Connection During Query!

MySql Has Gone Way!

Entre outros erros de conexão!!!

JÁ NÃO SEI O QUE FAÇO!

QUAIS SÃO AS CONEXÕES RECOMENDAS PARA SISTEMAS ON LINE ´APLICATIVOS EXECUTÁVEIS´ QUE ACESSAM O MYSQL!!!!

Qual a programação ideal do VB com o mysql On-Line!!! Por exemplo eu tenho um recordset carregado com dados de um tabela do banco de dados e quando o usuário mantem o sistema aberto e depois vai editar um registro, acessar o recordset ado, se obtem o erro de conexão!!! Notas o sistema funciona 24 horás por dia, ele funciona bem só que as vezes fico obtendo esses bendito desses erros e as vezes obtenho demais e os usuários reclamam que não está dando para trabalhar!!!

Variáveis de configuração do meu banco de dados:

auto_increment_increment,1
auto_increment_offset,1
automatic_sp_privileges,ON
back_log,50
basedir,/usr/local/mysql/
binlog_cache_size,32768
bulk_insert_buffer_size,8388608
character_set_client,latin1
character_set_connection,latin1
character_set_database,latin1
character_set_results,latin1
character_set_server,latin1
character_set_system,utf8
character_sets_dir,/usr/local/mysql/share/mysql/charsets/
collation_connection,latin1_swedish_ci
collation_database,latin1_swedish_ci
collation_server,latin1_swedish_ci
completion_type,0
concurrent_insert,1
connect_timeout,5
datadir,/usr/local/mysql/data/
date_format,¬Y-¬m-¬d
datetime_format,¬Y-¬m-¬d ¬H:¬i:¬s
default_week_format,0
delay_key_write,ON
delayed_insert_limit,100
delayed_insert_timeout,300
delayed_queue_size,1000
div_precision_increment,4
engine_condition_pushdown,OFF
expire_logs_days,0
flush,OFF
flush_time,0
ft_boolean_syntax,+ -><()~*:´´&|
ft_max_word_len,84
ft_min_word_len,4
ft_query_expansion_limit,20
ft_stopword_file,(built-in)
group_concat_max_len,1024
have_archive,YES
have_bdb,NO
have_blackhole_engine,YES
have_compress,YES
have_crypt,YES
have_csv,YES
have_example_engine,YES
have_federated_engine,YES
have_geometry,YES
have_innodb,YES
have_isam,NO
have_ndbcluster,DISABLED
have_openssl,NO
have_query_cache,YES
have_raid,NO
have_rtree_keys,YES
have_symlink,YES
init_connect,
init_file,
init_slave,
innodb_additional_mem_pool_size,1048576
innodb_autoextend_increment,8
innodb_buffer_pool_awe_mem_mb,0
innodb_buffer_pool_size,8388608
innodb_checksums,ON
innodb_commit_concurrency,0
innodb_concurrency_tickets,500
innodb_data_file_path,ibdata1:10M:autoextend
innodb_data_home_dir,
innodb_doublewrite,ON
innodb_fast_shutdown,1
innodb_file_io_threads,4
innodb_file_per_table,OFF
innodb_flush_log_at_trx_commit,1
innodb_flush_method,
innodb_force_recovery,0
innodb_lock_wait_timeout,50
innodb_locks_unsafe_for_binlog,OFF
innodb_log_arch_dir,
innodb_log_archive,OFF
innodb_log_buffer_size,1048576
innodb_log_file_size,5242880
innodb_log_files_in_group,2
innodb_log_group_home_dir,./
innodb_max_dirty_pages_pct,90
innodb_max_purge_lag,0
innodb_mirrored_log_groups,1
innodb_open_files,300
innodb_support_xa,ON
innodb_sync_spin_loops,20
innodb_table_locks,ON
innodb_thread_concurrency,20
innodb_thread_sleep_delay,10000
interactive_timeout,28800
join_buffer_size,131072
key_buffer_size,8388600
key_cache_age_threshold,300
key_cache_block_size,1024
key_cache_division_limit,100
language,/usr/local/mysql/share/mysql/english/
large_files_support,ON
large_page_size,0
large_pages,OFF
license,GPL
local_infile,ON
locked_in_memory,OFF
log,OFF
log_bin,OFF
log_bin_trust_function_creators,OFF
log_error,
log_slave_updates,OFF
log_slow_queries,OFF
log_warnings,1
long_query_time,10
low_priority_updates,OFF
lower_case_file_system,OFF
lower_case_table_names,0
max_allowed_packet,8192000
max_binlog_cache_size,4294967295
max_binlog_size,1073741824
max_connect_errors,10
max_connections,100
max_delayed_threads,20
max_error_count,64
max_heap_table_size,16777216
max_insert_delayed_threads,20
max_join_size,18446744073709551615
max_length_for_sort_data,1024
max_relay_log_size,0
max_seeks_for_key,4294967295
max_sort_length,1024
max_sp_recursion_depth,0
max_tmp_tables,32
max_user_connections,0
max_write_lock_count,4294967295
multi_range_count,256
myisam_data_pointer_size,6
myisam_max_sort_file_size,2147483647
myisam_recover_options,OFF
myisam_repair_threads,1
myisam_sort_buffer_size,8388608
myisam_stats_method,nulls_unequal
ndb_autoincrement_prefetch_sz,32
ndb_force_send,ON
ndb_use_exact_count,ON
ndb_use_transactions,ON
ndb_cache_check_time,0
net_buffer_length,16384
net_read_timeout,30
net_retry_count,10
net_write_timeout,60
new,OFF
old_passwords,OFF
open_files_limit,1024
optimizer_prune_level,1
optimizer_search_depth,62
pid_file,/usr/local/mysql/data/SAP.localdomain.pid
port,3306
preload_buffer_size,32768
protocol_version,10
query_alloc_block_size,8192
query_cache_limit,1048576
query_cache_min_res_unit,4096
query_cache_size,0
query_cache_type,ON
query_cache_wlock_invalidate,OFF
query_prealloc_size,8192
range_alloc_block_size,2048
read_buffer_size,131072
read_only,OFF
read_rnd_buffer_size,262144
relay_log_purge,ON
relay_log_space_limit,0
rpl_recovery_rank,0
secure_auth,OFF
server_id,0
skip_external_locking,ON
skip_networking,OFF
skip_show_database,OFF
slave_compressed_protocol,OFF
slave_load_tmpdir,/tmp/
slave_net_timeout,3600
slave_skip_errors,OFF
slave_transaction_retries,10
slow_launch_time,2
socket,/tmp/mysql.sock
sort_buffer_size,2097144
sql_mode,
sql_notes,ON
sql_warnings,ON
storage_engine,MyISAM
sync_binlog,0
sync_frm,ON
sync_replication,0
sync_replication_slave_id,0
sync_replication_timeout,10
system_time_zone,BRT
table_cache,64
table_lock_wait_timeout,50
table_type,MyISAM
thread_cache_size,0
thread_stack,196608
time_format,¬H:¬i:¬s
time_zone,SYSTEM
timed_mutexes,OFF
tmp_table_size,33554432
tmpdir,
transaction_alloc_block_size,8192
transaction_prealloc_size,4096
tx_isolation,REPEATABLE-READ
updatable_views_with_limit,YES
version,5.0.18-max
version_comment,MySQL Community Edition - Experimental (GPL)
version_compile_machine,i686
version_compile_os,pc-linux-gnu
wait_timeout,28800

A colaboração e ajuda com sua resposta serão muito gratas!!!

Obrigado!